Shame and Humiliation: Why it’s a good thing.

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When you come to Christ and confess that you are a sinner, God himself not only forgives, but He forgets all of your sins.  God is Holy and there is no place in His character to remember our sins.  

Four sins in our culture that are killing us.

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The argument all people use to sin.  Thinking they do not have a choice, but yet they debunk their own arguments by saying things like this, it’s my choice!   And yes being a gay person, addict, over weight, and choosing abortion is your choice.  God loves us so much He let us have free will, we are not robots. I choose to BE a Christian and FREE from all sin.  Because Jesus is the one that renews my mind, body, and spirit.

This is what God says about your body and mind,

“I have the right to do anything,” you say — but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything” — but I will not be mastered by anything. You say, “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food, and God will destroy them both.” The body, however, is not meant for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. By His power God raised the Lord from the dead, and He will raise us also. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ Himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never!…

Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. (From the Bible)

Wow! This is definitely an in-your-face, tell-it-like-it-is, no-holds-barred description of what God considers to be the right and wrong use of our bodies. In this and other passages of Scripture we learn five radical truths about our bodies that run counter-culturally to everything you hear today.


It is in the place of humiliation that we find our true worth to God-that is where our faithfulness is revealed.  Oswald Chambers

It is a slippery slop when you try and make sin guilt free.  Jeremiah 6:15 says, ” Are they ashamed of their detestable conduct? No, they have no shame at all; they do not even know how to blush. So they will fall among the fallen; they will be brought down when I punish them,” says the LORD.

So shame on us when we lie to the people we love about what sin is, and when we say nothing it is just like lying.  Not only will you be a false teacher you are causing them to sin too.  The question is does this put you into Heaven?  By this we know that we have come to know Him, if we keep His commandments. The one who says, “I have come to know Him,” and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him; but whoever keeps His word, in him the love of God has truly been perfected. By this we know that we are in Him: the one who says he abides in Him ought himself to walk in the same manner as He walked. (NASB) 1 John 2:3-6

If it was not for the shame and quilt I felt I would have never even needed God for forgiveness and mercy.  When I came to know Christ I asked for forgiveness for my sin.  I came to Him dirty.  I had no idea of all the filth I was still carrying.  But everyday I seem to find something I need forgiveness for.  Today it’s more about the invisible things hidden in me instead of the outward things.

So what has our culture and government said is okay

  1.  Gay Pride!



Gay Pride

“Being gay is natural , hating gay is a lifestyle choice”

I am here to tell you God did not make anyone Gay! (I remember when gay meant happy)  God puts homosexuality in the same category as sleeping with animals, incest,pedophilia, and polygamy. Just like God did not make me fat, or a liar, a murder, or an adulterer, He also did not make me a alcoholic or a drug addict.  Until you understand that God wants a relationship with you and you understand how much He loves you, you will never change.  You must ask for forgiveness and actually want to change.  It’s through this SHAME and HUMILIATION, that God will bring you to your knees and He will work miracles in you.  If you have no shame then why would you change?  And just because you are gay and have a Bible verse tattooed on your arm does not get you into heaven either.  When the women, who was an adulterer, was going to be stoned… When they kept on questioning him (Jesus), he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.”  But then he told the women “Go and sin no more!”  Once you know Jesus not only do you enter an eternal relationship with him but you no longer what to sin.  This was humiliation for this women.  John 8:7

Read this story below from this homosexual man who is know a Christian 🙂

2. Shaming the Sick: Addiction and Stigma

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While I completely understand the reason why we are trying to get the stigma out of recovery, I also think addiction is a sin that people need to have some guilt and humiliation.  We need to be very careful that we don’t make it okay for people to start up drug use in the first place.  His humiliation was necessary (1) to execute the purpose of God (Acts 2:23, 24; Psalm 40:6-8)  It’s my shame that commands I change.

“I am a 56 year old black gay women, who has been shooting heroin since the age of 11. I don’t have HIV or AIDS. I can honestly say it’s because I choose not to share needles. I didn’t have to share needles because I COULD ALWAYS find a harm reduction center where I could get clean new sets. If not for that I believe I would be one of millions with the disease.”

Please do not misunderstand me I am extremely glad that she does not have a diseases, but I have seen many people who are happy they can still use drugs and not have to worry about this.  There is no shame in SOME cases.  Then why would they ever need God is what they are doing is okay?

Just this week I (Katie Whiteman) noticed duster.  And my temptation was…”I wonder what that feels like to be high off of duster?”  I picked it up looked at it and even sprayed it to see how it works.  Then I prayed, “Lord get rid of this tempting thought.”  And He did.  I put it down.  Then I thought about how much shame and humiliation I would have brought to my family and to God if I gave into this temptation.  You see when you love the Lord you no longer think about yourself.  Your choices and thoughts are based on whether I will shame others in my life or God himself.

3. Beauty Doesn’t Have a Weight Limit?  Big is Beautiful?  No fat is not beautiful or healthy.

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With obesity and diabetes being the number one preventable diseases in the world and the number one killer, even over drug abuse, it’s no wonder God does not want us to be fat.

I know this may be a touchy topic for people, me included.  But I can tell you from personal experience that being over weight is not beautiful or healthy.  I made up a lot of excuses for my weight.  But it’s shame and humiliation that made me ask God for help.  God does not want us to  be unhealthy.  Every time I would over eat I would feel shame and rightfully so.  I’m not perfect in this area, but God wants me to glorify Him and over eating and being unhealthy does not do this.

So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God. 1 Corinthans 10:31

And put a knife to your throat if you are given to appetite  Proverbs 23:2  Ouch!! (Please do not actually do this, but it’s important to control your eating, or over indulging on anything)  This verse is not only about food, could be sex, alcohol, or impure thoughts.

Be not among drunkards or among gluttonous eaters of meat, for the drunkard and the glutton will come to poverty, and slumber will clothe them with rags. Proverbs 23: 20-21


4.  Abortion

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“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, And before you were born I consecrated you; I have appointed you a prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5

This just speaks for it self.  No guilt or shame has brought many to make selfish choices of aborting babies.  And my come-back to this person is, “I am so glad your mom did not abort you, God loves you and I am so glad you are here.”



“I, even I, am he who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more.
26 Review the past for me, let us argue the matter together; state the case for your innocence.

When you come to Christ and confess that you are a sinner, God himself not only forgives, but He forgets all of your sins.  God is Holy and there is no place in His character to remember our sins.

One last thing.  If you are thinking your sin is okay and you are doing good works, you will also not enter into heaven.  You can try and be as good as you want but God is not going to accept you into Heaven by this merit alone.

The “good works” of unsaved people are “dead”, and are as “filthy rags” to God.

But we are all as an unclean [thing], and all our righteousnesses [are] as filthy rags; and we all do fade as a leaf; and our iniquities, like the wind, have taken us away.
Isaiah 64:6   Commentary on this verse by Matthew Henry

How much more shall the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered himself without spot to God, purge your conscience from dead works to serve the living God?
Hebrew 9:14

So it is by Faith alone you are saved by His Grace!!

I tell the truth even when you don’t like it.  Just keeping it real.







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